Whether you’re single, committed to a marriage relationship, the term affair would be the last thing you would want to talk about with your other half. In someway, it is a taboo and it does make sense why people would avoid talking about it (I’m sure you wouldn’t tell your partner she has put on weight now, would you?).
Since there are many ways to tell the signs of extramarital affair, but when you first found out that your partner is having an infidelity affair, always try your best to stay calm and maintain as much rationality as you can. This would be a better advice for all the infidelity women out there. Although this would make sense to almost everyone, it is fairly certain that not all of us possess this trait. However, before doing anything further, if you cannot even think properly, you would just end up getting hurt regardless of what you do.
When you are surviving an affair, if you are definitely certain that you partner has turn his/her back on you and is indeed having an affair and cheating on you, deciding whether to continue rebuilding marriage after infidelity or to let go is the next stage you should think about before making any further decisions. Whether you have decided to keep the relationship while forgiving infidelity or to let your other half go, the important factor here is communication. Of course we’re not talking about communication via knife and fork, but a mature and rational communication between you and your partner. Running away would not solve the problem or helpful in ending an emotional affair; leave a stain and it would still be there tomorrow.
Contrary neither to what many of us think time does not heal your wounds nor to help in recovering from emotional affair. If you continue to hide yourself and run away from the issue, it would still be there after 10, 20 or 30 years. If would be a tough time for you to survive your infidelity and recover from your extramarital affair. Remember, communication between your partner and your love ones with confrontation to the issue would be the best remedy to deal with an affair.
If we take on an opposite view, what would you do if you have an affair and your partner found out about it? The first aspect to look at after this happened is to ask yourself; what was it that motivated you to commit such an act? Was it the thrill or excitement? If indeed what you did was just to seek out the thrill and excitement for trying something “new” and now that you regret it, you should cut off all (ALL!) you ties with the person before you can start fixing your current relationship. Don’t expect to be able to patch up a relationship while keeping another as life doesn’t work that way and money doesn’t grow on trees (though I don’t deny that money is made out of paper and paper does grow on tree). Unfortunately however, if you started an affair because you thought there is not hope with your current relationship, it is time you should seriously think whether you should let go of your current relationship and pursue your happiness elsewhere.
Lastly, sometimes a lot of unpredicted things happen to our life and this is perfectly sensible because we human are emotional being and 1 out of 3 times we act based on our emotions or impulse. However despite that, it is important to remember that despite our emotions, we should always behave ourselves and definitely someday, happiness would find its way to you.